I have been so lucky to be supported by such amazing people in my life since meeting Jennifer and falling in love with her and marrying her. I know that there are VERY anti-gay people and groups out there. But, thankfully, I have not had to face them too often. I was not raised in that kind of judgmental family. And none of my friends have ever been that hateful. And here in Ithaca, people are very open and friendly and liberal, so Lorelli has not had to face other people's hatred and judging.
I DO know it is out there. I read about it from afar. You see it on the internet. I know about it from the work that we do on the Crisisline. I am not SO unicorns and rainbows that I think that the world has changed and grown so much that all people will accept all other people. I DO pray for that day, though.
Because I was so upset, I went back and re-visited some of the things that my amazing friends have said to me in the last year and I wanted to share them with you.
"I LOVE YOU. I LOVE THAT YOU ARE HAPPY. I ALWAYS WILL......it doesn't make me care about you or your happiness any less. It doesn't mean that I don't want to continue to be your friend, or be part of a four headed goddess with you.....But I am truly glad that she gives you what you've needed for so long, and I want you to be happy, loved, valued, all those things that you deserve!!!"
"Girl or boy, lady, i am glad you are happy. It is super cool that you found what you want!"
"I am glad you're happy - well I guess to be honest, it would be more like spaz-out joyful - the way one is when one is in the thores of love. "
"And, as I said, I care about YOU and your sexual orientation, who you are married to or your religion are not factors in our friendship.......I think loving ALL people is important and don't go around making public stances against people for any reason"
Those are just a few of the amazing things that the people I surround myself with have said to show me that they love me and are behind me. I just needed to get this out of my head. Thanks for sticking around and reading.