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Thursday, May 26


I am feeling kind of blah today. I let something really get to me yesterday when I probably shouldn't have. A high school friend of mine posted a link to a website as his Facebook status and asked his friends to join him in boycotting Home Depot. I was not angered by his post...everyone is welcome to have their own opinions...BUT I WAS UPSET by the page that he posted. It was just....filth.

I have been so lucky to be supported by such amazing people in my life since meeting Jennifer and falling in love with her and marrying her. I know that there are VERY anti-gay people and groups out there. But, thankfully, I have not had to face them too often. I was not raised in that kind of judgmental family. And none of my friends have ever been that hateful. And here in Ithaca, people are very open and friendly and liberal, so Lorelli has not had to face other people's hatred and judging.

I DO know it is out there. I read about it from afar. You see it on the internet. I know about it from the work that we do on the Crisisline. I am not SO unicorns and rainbows that I think that the world has changed and grown so much that all people will accept all other people. I DO pray for that day, though.

Because I was so upset, I went back and re-visited some of the things that my amazing friends have said to me in the last year and I wanted to share them with you.

"I LOVE YOU. I LOVE THAT YOU ARE HAPPY. I ALWAYS WILL......it doesn't make me care about you or your happiness any less. It doesn't mean that I don't want to continue to be your friend, or be part of a four headed goddess with you.....But I am truly glad that she gives you what you've needed for so long, and I want you to be happy, loved, valued, all those things that you deserve!!!"

"Girl or boy, lady, i am glad you are happy. It is super cool that you found what you want!"

"I am glad you're happy - well I guess to be honest, it would be more like spaz-out joyful - the way one is when one is in the thores of love. "

"And, as I said, I care about YOU and your sexual orientation, who you are married to or your religion are not factors in our friendship.......I think loving ALL people is important and don't go around making public stances against people for any reason"

Those are just a few of the amazing things that the people I surround myself with have said to show me that they love me and are behind me. I just needed to get this out of my head. Thanks for sticking around and reading. 



CJ said...

We've yet to experience adversity together, but Ash gets it a LOT, especially in the lady's restroom!

Comeca Jones said...

I love it that ignorance hasnt gotten in the way of you speaking your truth and loving whom you choose to love anyway. This giving of emotions lends one extra step towards understanding . I too love my "she" and want all the all the rights that come with that.(maybe one day) Meme

Toby E. said...

No matter what choices you make in life, someone will fight you with them. You know people didn't want me to marry Larry. Most important is that YOU are happy with your choices, and those that truly count will be happy just to see happy. Count me in on that wagon 'cause I love you and I love J for what she has made in your heart that I see in your eyes!

parenting ad absurdum said...

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with mean and ignorant people- and glad you have people who love and support you!! You deserve it. I look forward to reading more about your journey.

Thanks for your note on my article at Momtastic!